Truth and Honesty
We Once Took Great Pride in Telling The Truth
For much of our history as a nation, we took great pride in telling the truth.
We had an American culture that held truth telling, individual honesty, and personal integrity as an expectation and a source of pride.
We paid honor to people who were so honest that their word was their bond — and one of the most dangerous things you could do would be to accuse someone of lying, because people in many American communities would fight anyone who questioned their integrity and honor.
We told the truth to each other and we expected people to tell the truth to us.
Our leaders took great pride in their reputation for honesty and truth telling — and leaders could very easily lose significant levels of support if they were ever caught in a lie of any kind.
That was actually a good culture and set of expectations to have. It was easy to understand, and it created a context for communications that told us we could rely on what people told us as being at least their perception of what was true.
People were able to present the truth in the best possible light to make their own points and sell their own point of view — but the underlying expectation was that what they said was actually what they believed to be true.
People who are making decisions about various political or functional issues could do so with the reliance that what they were hearing as information about a given issue was actually believed to be true by the person telling them the information.
We have slipped away from that set of expectations, and we have descended in many of our communications to a level where the truth might or might not be included in what is being said about any given topic. Invented facts and fake news are used with great comfort by too many — and the result is that it is much harder for us to make decisions and know what to believe.
The old culture had some obvious advantages. We don’t need to spend a lot of time debating how we got to our new set of expectations, but we should make the collective decision that invented facts and fake news are not the best ways for us to run our lives and interact with each other as either groups or individuals.
We should recognize where we are now, and we should make the conscious decision to collectively reinstate our old culture and our old expectations about telling the truth. We could do that if we actually decide it is a good thing to do and make the collective decision to do it.
We could call ourselves "Truthers." Truthers could be people who agree to tell the truth and who agree to hold others accountable.
There have been other groups called Truthers. Let’s allow that label to have its historical significance, but simply pre-empt it and use it now to label all of us who commit to the ethical standard of truth telling.
We Truthers can now take clear steps to return to those traditional truth and honesty-based values, behaviors, and expectations for our interactions with each other.
Telling the truth actually has instinctive roots. Telling the truth tends to be a source of pride, honor, and self-definition in many cultures — but those values in most settings tend only to apply to people within the culture, and only exist at their purest levels between cultures in times of Peace. They are not the values that exist between cultures in times of war.
When Sun Tzu wrote The Art of War two thousand years ago, he was opposed to telling the truth. He basically said telling the truth was a bad and dangerous thing to do relative to your enemies. He preached deceit and deception, and his strategies very intentionally used multiple layers of giving misinformation to the world with the goal of defeating your enemy.
Sun Tzu made it very clear that he did not believe there were any relevant ethical standards that should be applied to truth telling in a time of war. In Us/Them situations, he recommended that leaders should have a sense of integrity relative to their own troops, but he advocated extreme duplicity relative to the rest of the world. War triggered intentional dishonesty for Sun Tzu.
In our own country today, we are not at war — but we have activated war like intergroup instincts for many of our people in a number of settings, and that has caused people to feel entirely comfortable when lying, rather than using the truth as a standard or expectation for communications or behaviors.
We now see situations where some people stand in front of cameras and say things that everyone knows are not true, and the people who feel a sense of Us with the speaker accept, condone, and even celebrate grossly inaccurate statements when used as weapons in Us versus Them conflict.
That set of behaviors and those communication approaches will lead us down the path to a very damaged and dysfunctional future as communities and as a country. We should want our future as a country to be full of intergroup Peace so that our grandchildren are not damaged by the future we create for them.
We want our grandchildren to succeed and survive and even thrive. The likelihood of our grandchildren not being damaged is extremely low if we don’t change those intergroup behaviors, because we will be in a future where our worst Us/Them instincts will be activated in large numbers, and people will hate and damage others in many communities and settings with those values and emotions in their minds.
We will have unsafe cities and communities where people from various groups will be damaged by those from other groups, simply because they are from the wrong group in dangerous interactions.
We need to move away from Us/Them thinking in our cities, and we need to create a sense of Us that reduces risk and conflict. That will not happen unless we make it happen.
If we don’t have cities and communities, and even neighborhoods, where people feel a sense of being Us at important levels, then we will face an ugly and divided future where major portions of this beautiful country will be off limits to people based on which group they belong.
We need to build a sense of Us as a country and in each of our communities around our shared beliefs and values — and we need to interact with each other as an American Us instead of a Tribal Us at various levels.
We are wired to be a Tribal Us. The world has more than two hundred ethnic wars going on today where people are killing others from different groups and feeling significant emotional satisfaction in that process. Our Us/Them instincts are very seductive — and people who feel they are fighting a Them in each setting often feel energized, enabled, emboldened, and even ennobled by the fight.
It is a very slippery slope to some very primal and ugly emotional gratification situations and behaviors in creating intergroup damage — and those of us who do not want to be a nation at war with itself need to rise above those emotions and restore us to a more enlightened set of values and behaviors.
Some of our most dangerous and even disgusting behaviors have deep instinctive roots and pathways. Bullying is an instinctive behavior, so our cultures all create rules and expectations that prevent the worst kinds of bullying. Some of our gender linked behaviors have very negative energy levels — and we know from actual sad experience in several countries, where the rape laws are not enforced by the culture, that more than half of the women in those settings are raped.
The rapists, themselves, tend to be less than half of the male population in those settings, but the number of both women and men who are raped can be extremely high when we don’t enforce those laws.
We need to use our cultures very directly in every setting to offset our most dangerous and damaging instinctive behaviors.
We also have acquisition instincts that are generally kept in check by cultural rules about property ownership. People have instincts to acquire. All over the planet, we see that when those laws and rules are not being enforced in conflicted situations, looting occurs, and the property rules are ignored in favor of the opportunity to acquire.
We have the ability to rise to high and enlightened levels of interaction and behavior on multiple levels when we are in settings where the cultural guidances and legal expectations point us in those directions.
We also have the ability to sink to very low and unenlightened levels of behavior and ethical compliance when those standards and enforcement mechanisms are not in play.
As a nation, we need to have all of our laws about bullying, property theft, and sex related abuse in place — and we would be very well served if we also returned to an ethical expectation of basic honesty in what we say and do that offsets our instinctive tendency to lie to people we perceive to be Them.
We can rise to those ethical standards and expectations by understanding what we have just done, and by agreeing as a people and a nation that we have decided to return to an expectation of honesty.
We need our Truther movement to be real, and we need to be willing to act and communicate those values.
We need to demand that our news media tell the truth and then respond when that doesn’t happen — and we need to hold our own side accountable to honesty and ethics for that to happen.
We each need to use, watch, read, and select honest and ethical media, and we need to object and become outraged when our own media does us wrong. We need to clean our own house, and we need to expect our media to follow along with those expectations.
We also need to move to a higher level between groups and accept each other’s feedback and guidance toward our issues and concerns.
As The Art of InterGroup Peace points out in the final chapter, we need to have a set of shared values as a nation and as communities, and we need to commit to one another to make those values real, and use them as guidelines for our lives.
We need to form local groups whose roles are to help us all maintain the standard of truth telling. We need to teach those values to our children and we need to model them for our kids.
The key is to recognize that in order for any parts of this nation to do well in a threatening and even dangerous world, we need to move in directions that help us all do well, and we need to have a shared desire and interest that causes us all to celebrate when any of us do well.
The alternative to doing well together is to divide into warring factions and do damage to one another. We could easily fall to that set of bad outcomes — if we don’t recognize how dangerous those behaviors are and how damaging those outcomes will be.
Let’s start by returning to the standard that says Americans do not lie to one another, and let’s let Trutherism be a guide and a tool for our interactions.
We will never be perfect — but we can be a lot better than we are becoming, and the time to change that direction is now.